Friends Don’t Let Friends...

Recently I’ve been reminding myself about some of the rules of friendship. There are some very important rules that we all should follow. Since I am reminding myself... I thought I should also remind everyone else out there.

Friends don’t let friends drink alone. EVER. And friends don’t let friends drink alone during a crisis. As a matter of fact they go out of their way to comfort you with many bottles of wine and martinis. At least that is what my friends have been doing. They say alcohol isn’t a way to escape your problems, but it sure helps when friends are involved and are making you laugh till you are crying.

Friends don’t let friends live in basement apartments. I’ve been on the hunt for an apartment and FINALLY found one. It’s in a amazing building, in the perfect neighbourhood and my friends are in the building. I have to tell you though, the search was a bit insane but I had friends helping. They all made sure that the units I was looking at WERE NOT basement apartments.

Basements are too dark for me. Though some may find that a shock, I do need lots of light. I’ve lived in a basement and worked in a basement and no longer want to be in one. One friend immediately said to me when she offered to help me look was ‘friends don’t let friends live in basements’.

Friends don’t set friends up on blind dates. Not if you want to stay friends. I’ve heard this over and over about blinds dates. They never go well and afterwards you wonder if your friends even know you at all as you are usually set up with someone that is completely opposite of anyone you would ever date!

When I was in college a friendship ended for this very reason. A night out was planned with a friend and a bunch of others. Everyone who showed up were couples except me and one guy. My friend introduced us and said, ‘hey I thought you guys would get along well.’ Then she proceeded to walk away, leaving us to make like friends. He knew about the set up. I didn’t. I was very pissed off! Not only did she set me up on a blind date and not tell me... she clearly had no idea what my type was.

Friends don’t let friends date jerks. We are all guilty of this. Thinking that our friends must know what is best for them. Not going with our gut instincts that the guy they have just introduced us to is an asshole. We need to go with our gut instincts and speak up. I really don’t want to ever hurt a friends feelings but if the guy is a jerk... tell them. They will hate you more later when they discover he is a jerk and you knew it the entire time.

You’d tell a friend if they had food stuck in their teeth, you’d tell them in that bathing suit they are trying on looks hideous so make sure you are also telling them all the things that are bad for them. Sometimes the truth hurts, but it’s better to be honest! Believe it or not, they will love you for it in the end!