::Shebytches::

I had an epiphany recently. I realized that I need space. This may not seem to be a big deal to any of you, but to someone who has always had someone in her life, this is huge. I am not quite sure of who I am yet, and I need time to learn before trying to share myself with anybody else. Of course, it kind of sucks because what do I do when I get lonely? I guess just deal with it. Buy more books and PS2 games.

I like my own company, a lot. I enjoy sitting and thinking about decisions I’ve made and figuring out where I went wrong and how I can avoid making the same mistakes again. Which has ultimately led me to this realization that I’ve been making the same mistakes over and over. Break up with a guy and find a new one. I suppose in some small way, it kind of temporarily eases the pain of the breakup, but that pain just lies in wait. It never goes away.

The problem with dating right after a breakup is that you’re never entirely sure if it’s true or a rebound. You might think it’s a good idea at the time, but it isn’t. It’s a stupid idea to think you can heal that quickly. I’m just glad I realized this now and not a few months down the road when I wake up and find this guy in my life that I don’t want anymore because he’s not what I need. It’s hard to tell someone what you need when you don’t even know.

It isn’t a question of hurting another person that you have to consider. It’s the very real possibility that you are going to do more damage to yourself by not allowing a proper grieving period. However long that is depends on the person, but it still has to happen. If you don’t grieve, you‘ll search for a replacement, and you will never be completely happy. It’s hard to be alone, but I am finding inner strength I never knew I had. I feel more at peace with myself since deciding not to date until I’m ready. I know that when I’m ready, I will be able to have a fulfilling relationship because I took the time I needed to learn about myself.

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What you said!!!

What you wrote about Moving Faeries

You really have alot of issues with those damn faeries. I hear if you feed them alot of sugar. They explode!!! Good Luck! I hope they go away soon!

~Kerrie~

What you wrote about Sarrah's article on the Tattoo Guy!

Sarrah please come back. We miss you!!!

You shouldn't pick on Peter, the poor guy obviously has issues! Big ones! Actually he totally deserves to be picked on!

It is obvious to me that Peter isn't getting any. This is why he is looking at a website geared for Women.

~Kathy

I think Peter is a serial killer. That is my story and I am sticking to it.

Sarrah you crack me up. I love your poem. Can I use it?

A little poem, written by our very talented Sarrah, just for Peter.

My Name is Peter

I wish I could find the porn,

I really like it alot.

I found this website

But, I don't understand it.

Where's the porn?

Dumb ass comment of the month.

Oh great, another fucking lesbian site. Isn't there already enough out there!!!

~Peter

This isn't a comment regarding the Tattoo guy, but it was too good not to post. Please note this came from a male, our guess is he was looking for a porn site. I couldn't respond to him, because he gave us a fake email address. I wonder if these people actually think before they send stuff. Carolina

You guys rock!!! I check in every couple of days to see what is new. When are you gals going to start doing this every day???

Stan: I seen you getting your tattoo. You were such a cunt to the guy! How can you treat people like that? You must be so lonely, because you are such a bitch.

Belinda: You are a very angry person. I can sense so much pain in your aura.

Ben: I am so tired of you women always complaining about men. Give us a break.

Carolina (the one from Shebytches): For Ben and all of the others like him. We wouldn't complain about men (the lesser species in my opinion), if YOU didn't give use stuff to complain about. If you were perfect (never going to happen), you'd never hear a complaint. Also, the comments about Sarrah being a bitch (I get called a bitch alot too). To us the word Bitch means power. We are called Bitches ALOT, so, this must mean we are verrrrryyyyy powerful women! I guess that means we WIN!!!