I’ve had my share of mindless sex. You know the kind that comes from meeting someone at a nightclub when you’re both drunk. The music pulsing so hard through your body, you can’t keep your hands off each other, and you fall into bed and fuck your brains out. Then you wake up the next morning, beside some stranger, usually full of regret. I’m so sick of it!

What I want is the kind of sex where two people meet in complete honesty with the desire of pleasuring and being pleasured. There is a mutual attraction, an open heart and a willingness to stay present in the moment. It’s the kind of sex where one’s entire being just hums! Two souls become interconnected. And it doesn’t matter if the world outside is not as you’d hoped! Because in that moment, being with that person, experiencing pure pleasure is all there is.

Don’t get me wrong, sex doesn’t always have to shake my world, but there has to be connection!

Many people assume that I’m saying the only good sex comes from being in relationship. I mean that can be really great too, but it’s not what I’m talking about. Why can’t they get it? When I say connection I mean connection! Not relationship, connection. Not love, connection. And it can be just for the moment. Relationship or not, I want connection. It’s the connection that makes all encompassing, mind blowing, heart stopping, soul searing sex possible.

So I go after this in my life. And I really hate it, when I discover that the person who I thought had been honest with themselves, and me, turns out to be completely unaware of what they want. Or anything else for that matter. What happened to honesty and personal accountability? If you say you’re going to meet me in a certain energetic, make sure you want to be there! Because if you don’t really want the sex I’m after, then I don’t want it with you. Stop wasting your time and especially mine!

Cheri Michael, creator of Night of Sirens and proprieter of Eros Fine Arts, is an artist of the moment, a lover of the human arts, and a spoken word performance artist who uses whatever it takes! www.erosfinearts.com tells you more about Eros Fine Arts, which focuses on "The Art of Being Human Through Sacred Sexuality," and is quite informative about Night of Sirens. http://cherimichael.coffeehouse.ca will soon have Cheri's poetry available in mp3 format as well as having her two self-published chapbooks "Words To Heal By" and "Just In Time For St. Valentine's Day" available for purchase online. It's the place to find out more about Cheri, her writing and her performances - join the mailing list to keep updated!